Our minds are so quick to judge, commentate, and completely define everyone we see and meet.
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It’s so quick we don’t even give them a chance to simply be. And accepting how they appear to us in that moment. Enjoying however they choose to express themselves.
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Instead we put them in a box. Believing our thoughts is the absolute truth of who they are. And pretending that we have them all figured out based on a glimpse of what we see, hear, and experience.
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And I’m going to be the first to raises my hand 🖐and say that I’m 100% guilty of this.
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I even still do it sometimes…
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In fact we all do this, and if someone says it doesn’t happen to them (internalized or externalized) they are pretending.
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And what I’ve learned is that this is an automatic reaction of our defence mechanism as a way to communicate to us any signs of danger around us.
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Now here’s what I’ve been practicing, and I say practicing because there is never a point where it’s completely cleared and cemented.
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What I practice now is creating an open space for others to be, in the moment, accepting how they appear.
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Allowing me to enjoy how they choose to express themselves in that moment.
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Without judging, commenting, and alteration.
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I also practice to stay aware of the fact that how they show up in that moment does not define who they really are in totality.
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Meaning that how they show up in the moment may not be the same in the next.
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Today they may be calm and relaxed. They may be in a space where they are dealing with inner conflicts.
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Tomorrow they may be jumping around like a 6 year old child joyful about life.
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The beauty of this is that it keeps life and connections with people so interesting.
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It allows people around to to simply be.
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When you practice this in your life you’ll see how amazing people really are in every moment.
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You’ll continue to rediscover people you already know from totally new perspectives.
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And the best part is you’ll give them the greatest gift of all… the freedom to be whoever they want to be and how they choose to appear to you, moment to moment.
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And remember this is moment to moment practice of self awareness.
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Much love ❤️!